Silent connections (because talking is overrated)

IEC Conference: 2023

Silent Connections

Connections in stillness, being a witness, metaphor for timelessness. Allowing to be with the other, a reflection of ourselves. Witnessing allows for a meeting in presence, recognising the other as you. Being the body, space, environment and relationship that we are. Connection with hearts, metaphor for our relationships in this moment. Sensing the depth of our hearts and the relational field that we inhabit. All is welcome, all rainbow feelings from love to heartache. Sharing the space of our environment and relationships. Connecting with our bodies, metaphor for our unique embodiment in this moment. Being grounded, noticing our breath, sharing our experience of embodiment. Our physical manifestations sensed and expressed through movement.


Meeting in silence allows us to develop our capacity to be with our self and others just as we are without a story. Allowing our bodies to be as they are, allowing our associations to arise just as they are and allowing our body, movement to express itself as it wants or needs. Giving space to our experience, feelings, emotions, associations, movements just as they are, how they are developing. Connecting with the aliveness in our stillness and of our senses together in silence.


Silence: Allowing for silence: allowing relaxation, to arrive, simply notice how you sit, how you breathe. Noticing space inside and outside of you. Allowing your gaze to be diffuse, inwardly orientated, not focussed on anything in particular. Allow yourself to arrive and relax.

Stillness: Falling more into stillness: being aware of your experience without focussing on any specific element in your experience. Relaxed awareness of yourself, your experience, your environment and the other. Allowing your gaze to also be outwardly orientated. All is good, all is welcome.

Relating: Opening up for relating: allowing and noticing the natural connection that you have and experience with another. Perhaps noticing sensations arising, changing, disappearing or a neutral response. All is good, all is welcome.

Moving: Activation of sensing / moving: tuning more into the experience of your body, your senses and maybe move a little. These can be micro movements or visible movements, inwardly or outwardly. In connection with the other or more from within. All is good, all is welcome.

Integration: Allowing time for integration: this time allows to reflection, relaxation, allowing associations to show themself, feeling grateful, closing your eyes, enjoying the moment, moving.

Focus areas

Silence: Allowing silence to be there, stillness to connect; connecting as timelessness. With others, a reflection of ourselves. Presence, allowing, seeing, sensing.

Stillness: Being body, space, environment, relationship as we are. Feeling hearts connecting in moments. Sensing hearts and space-time.

Relating: All is welcome, rainbow sensations, kaleidoscopical memories and associations. Sharing environment and relationship space.

Moving: Moving as an inner stillness sensation. Movement as an expression in a sensing space of questions and answers.

Integration: Exploring and sensing our embodiment in this moment. Grounding, breathing, feeling, associating, imagining, thinking, wanting.

DU BUF, Paul

Netherlands / United Kingdom

Paul graduated as a registered nurse in 1994 and became a specialist addiction nurse working in the area’s of prevention, treatment, aftercare, dual diagnosis, training and innovation in addiction treatment services in the Netherlands and UK. For his innovative NHS online recovery project, he received a clinical excellence award in 2011. He coordinated an alcohol outreach pilot project in London and  became an independent nurse prescriber in 2014. Recently he became a somatic practitioner, embodied processing practitioner and a trauma-informed coach to increase his effectiveness working with clients. Paul is focussed on supporting addiction services to become trauma-integrated which will benefit clients, staff and culture. He currently works as a travel nurse in Newcastle-under-Lyme in the United Kingdom and he visits his partner in Vancouver Island when he can.